Isn't that spiffy...Red is a color of love AND hate...I wonder what idiot coordinated that... -_-
Hate makes you ugly. Forgiving others is so much better. But then why do people not forgive? I forgive easily, probably because I haven't been offended enough not to. Or, being easily distracted, I forget about the offense before I can react to it. (haha...but seriously) But thinking about it, I considered the obvious (but not so obvious to me) fact that maybe people don't WANT to forgive. But does that mean the like feeling hatred towards that someone else? Is it comforting?
Most grudges I hold are just teasing grudges, grudges that I hold for fun and that I would easily lift when I felt like it. I hold grudges to see if I can, or to show the fact that indeed, I can, to the non-believers (shun the non-believers. :P)
So I didn't understand. Is hating on others a...positive feeling? Or maybe...is it because you don't feel that others DESERVE your forgiveness? Most likely, I think...
Following that, I thought, if the other person honestly didn't deserve forgiveness, is it still that bad to not forgive them? I think that...(#$%^! my nail polish chipped...I took so much care not to chip it this time...my 3rd failure. Pooh.) ...it depends. For example, if a man cheated on his wife (or a woman cheated on her husband, to remain un-sexist), I'm sure that the grudge against his wife would become tiring and simply a burden. So it would be best to just forgive her.
But what if the scenerio consisted of a bully and the bullied? Would it be okay to forgive the bully, even if another offense was in the seeable future? What if it seemed like the bully let it go, and decided to stop?
Oh yeah, and in both circumstances, the person didn't apologize. I know, I know, that's silly. But I grew up in a family that apologizing wasn't a great deal. It usually was an unspoken mutual agreement to let it go.
If I had more readers, I'd ask for your opinion, but the fact that this blog is more of a venting system for me... >.<
Well, despite this somewhat depressing blog, don't forget to
SMILE!
Haha love and hate ARE represented by the same color... Maybe they did that on purpose? To show something?
ReplyDeleteWhen I hold grudges, I usually do it to show the person that I should be mad at them for whatever they did, and at that I am mad. But my grudges never work out. They only last like five minutes. I usually just forgive people easily.
It's okay. My blog fails even more. Your blog is awesome!
Hey... I just have a question and I hope you answer this...
ReplyDeleteWhatever happened to your "Unwanted" story? You never finished it! I think the first chapter is good, and you should definitely keep on writing!
I know you don't write a reply to your comments, but I'm just saying that you should definitely continue that story! :)
Hate does make you ugly... but here's something to think about... to some people appearance doesn't matter as much! Just putting it out there. Personally I think it's good to forgive, but not too freely or people will just assume that no matter what they do to you, eventually they'll be forgiven. You need to stand up for yourself! :)
ReplyDeleteim giving you my opinion anyway...
ReplyDeleteheh, of course red signafies both. you're thinking of the two emotions too much as "opposites" do i need to direct you back to "the more you ruv someone"?
loooveing and kiilllling fit like hand in glove!
(hand in glove!)
nevertheless, red represents the feelings well because red is a color that stands out, is bright, and triggers a large emotional response, therefor such large and impowering emotions would most likely be represented by a color that stands out loudly to us.
hate, in my opinion, is desighned with the purpose of reminding us that a certain person is not to be trusted, or that this person is not to be given kindness to, whther or not this feeling is trigured by past experiences, or something that the hater was taught. it's more of a safety wire. of course, perpetually hateing people because they've made mistakes is unpracticle, and therefor people forgive, so that they may be kind and recieve kindness in turn from this person they once hated.
overall, how much you hate and how much you forgicve depends on who you are, what you've learned, and what you've experienced. someone who, as a child, was beaten senseless everyday by cows (dont ask) is most likely not going to forgive and take sympathy on a dieing cow he sees lieing by the highway, because he hates cows, because he fears what happens when he DOESNT hate cows, they beat him up.
okay, lets take the situation with the cheating wife, why woudld he forgive her when he has now learned that she will go behind his back and cheat on him? and of course, he has also learned, years past, that when someone cheats on you that is BAD. he doesnt want to be with someone who is BAD, who he knows will do this thing.
oh, and just to warn you, this comment was so long i didnt bother to proof-read it, so please excuse misspelling and things that dont make any sense.